For the record - and you can pass this along or not, I don't care - I do accept my feelings for what they are, and the only reason I've tried so hard to rid myself of them is because facing the disappointing reality of what can never be is just one more unbearable thing that adds to the load we all carry, every day, and sometimes I don't know if I can endure it. And now that burden's been put on her, too. I hope she can forget about what I told her. I can't - but it sounds as if she, perhaps, can.